Complexities

Recently watched couple of movies. There were two movie which really made me think about the complexities of relationship between a couple.
Although the movies were the representation of western culture but I guess it should hold good for ours too. That too at current situation when our whole generation is changing and adapting western at tremendous rate.

There was a movie "Indecent Proposal" where the couple had undergone a mutual decision that caused a lot of havoc in their later life. The story goes like this: A loving couple who were leading a happy life suddenly undergone financial crisis due to recession or something. They had no job, business or any other money source and the same time they lost all their remaining money in gamble. While they were hopeless in casino, a rich man offered them a proposal. Since the rich man was influenced by the beauty of lady (played by Demi moore) he asked a night alone with her in turn of Some million dollar money. It was inevitable but couple refused it at once as they said Love is above all. But it was a sleepless night for both of them and were thinking the same deal whole night. And after few days facing their pity situation the lady at last asked her husband "Its just a matter of 1 night."  Initially the men was not ready but then the amount of money involved and and her wife's seeded thought "Even if I am physical with somebody else, I am always yours from my soul." made him allow her for the same. But when the lady was gone that night he realized how big mistake he had done and run to stop her but twas too late. The next day when lady come back they promised not to discuss it again ever in their life. But the man was not able to live with this black truth and started suspecting her wife too due to her still being in touch with rich man. And their life became hell... although the ending of movie was happy but still it raises much questions about the complexities of relation.

It was still digestible, another movie "Closer" made me feel that how can this happen to any couple that too so soon in their relationship. It was story of two couples where I was not clear who was in relationship with whom as they change their preferences with time due to some or the other reasons..

 

So my basic question is , do money has such powers to come between your emotions,bonds and relations? Or if with time you get bore of your partner you can replace them? I would rather stop watching such movies and going into labyrinth of relation complexities. But as they say movies are reflection of real world , some thoughts do seed in to mind and then many question arises. Gawd save me!!

Three's group thanTwo's Company

Everybody has always preferred or heard  "Two's Company over three's Group" but I can cite an incident from my life where Three's Group was better than Two's company.

I along with my other two classmates used to cheat a lot(at least for one or two semesters of our graduation.). When two people cheat  there are chances that on few questions both have blank sheet (obviously due to unawareness.) , with more people getting involve in this process, the probability of having a question which cannot be answered reduces. But involvement of so many people in cheating company can make situation worse.Obviously you can fall on the eyes of examiner.  So I find three quite reasonable count for cheating.
Although we were not bad in studies ,but cheated for bringing the perfection in our answer sheets if any how we were not able to make it perfect by our own efforts. ;) We even had good reputation in our class and teachers as well so suspicion of ours as a cheater was less. (I guess this might not hold true for me but at least for my other two cheating partners.) But then again we were doing all these adventures in our internal sessional exams not in the main , being on safer side. And 'twas not possible to cheat there as our seats were apart there.(other two used to sit back to back in a row). But in internals I used to move myself a seat behind them by my influence/request/trickery or whatever. I just share a cheating experience. It was our third semester I guess. We had our first sessionals.
So after initial efforts of our own we dedicate the remaining time for sharing (better say cheating) our answers. We not only just peeped into each others answer sheets but used to discuss as well. The limit was when we stated sharing our papers with each others that too when the examiners were passing by.I don't know how my other partners shown enough guts for the same but I guess I had no option but to share our papers as I was not able to listen their fussing voice while discussion, that used to be very slow and cant look properly the small words written on their sheets that too when I had to look for the sheet of the partner sitting two seat away from me. It was a kind of big fun for us as we were fooling examiners blindly with having sheet of two different people with a single student.The examiner even come and signed many other supplementary sheets too in between but wasn't able to see two different sheets with one student. It was funny but we had some small fear so somewhere deep in our mind and that made the process more adventurous actually.  I remember even at the time of sheet collection, I had the supplementary sheet of one of my partners that I had to return her before the examiner reaches to her, it was risky but we had manged it somehow, I guess it was some good trick how we done it but I can't recall it.
Our cheating habit and group changed with time but none was better than this. Even in last year last sessionals I had no cheaters around me as I was giving with two or three people only as I was among those whose attendance was not good enough to give it on normal terms. But then again I had remembered my cheating partners and somehow managed to sms one of them my queries and to my amaze my cheating partner met my expectation and replied very soon. And with this my "cheating

fairy tale" ended on good note by being bit hi-tech with time.

God bless my cheating partners wherever they be!!

Aeroplane Ear

With my each trip via flight , I  used to feel intense pain in my ears while landing of plane. I had ignored it every time but this time my situation was like I will die out of pain. I caused much panic inside , that embarrassed me a bit but I couldn't help. It was unbearable. And this compelled me to visit doc soon after the landing. First thing first. And then I came to know that I have "Aeroplane Ear" syndrome.
And I suffer from it each time when there is sudden change in altitude that happens specially at landing of flight and doc asked me to avoid using airways , instead prefer other modes. :(  So sad!!
For all those people who share the same problem with me will find below information useful.

What is aeroplane ear?

Some people experience ear pain when flying in a plane. Usually this happens as the plane descends to land. The pain is worse the lower the plane gets and can be quite severe on landing.

What causes the pain?

The pain is caused by unequal pressure that develops between the air in the middle ear and the air outside the ear.

The small space in the middle ear behind the eardrum is normally filled with air. This air space is connected to the back of the nose by a tiny channel called the Eustachian tube. The air on either side of the eardrum should be at the same pressure. As a plane descends the air pressure becomes higher nearer the ground. This pushes the eardrum inwards which can be painful. To relieve this, the pressure inside the middle ear has to rise quickly too. Air needs to travel up the Eustachian tube into the middle ear to equalize the pressure.
 Prevention:
--Suck sweets when the plane begins to descend
--Try to breathe out gently with your mouth closed and pinching your nose
--Antihistamine tablet

What is the treatment for aeroplane ear?

Take painkillers such as paracetamol until it does go. Fluid sometimes accumulates in the middle ear for a few days after the flight, which may make hearing rather dull for a while. See a doctor if the pain or dulled hearing does not clear within a few days.

P.S. Although ways are there to tackle this problem  doc advised me "Prevention is better than cure!!"

Freedom at workspace

Happy 65th Independence Day. I wonder how and what it means to an individual and to be more precise to a working professional...

What does freedom mean to an Indian employee? The freedom to exercise the ‘open door’ policy and tell your boss that his business strategy is flawed? The freedom to enjoy an extended ‘paternity’ leave? The freedom to decide your own KRA? The freedom to take a sabbatical to pursue adventure sports and travel? Freedom means different things to different people or in this case, employees. “Freedom at the workplace is the independence employees need in order to be motivated and perform to the best of their abilities. Freedom encompasses flexibility on where an employee chooses to work from, the opportunity to voice their opinions freely and the freedom to exercise their creativity to achieve organizational goals.When people have freedom at work, they ought to give their best. They become emotionally committed to the organization, as opposed to being merely rationally committed. Emotionally committed employees go the extra mile in any assignment, actively seek new challenges and remain engaged with the organization through good times and bad.

Quarterlife crisis

Mid-Life Crisis. It literally means "middle life paranoia" and describes a period of dramatic self-doubt that is felt by some individuals in the "middle years" or middle age of life, as a result of sensing the passing of their own youth and the imminence of their old age. But these days they are happening at early stage of life , seems like with the fast paced life the crisis too are coming at earlier stage of life resulting into Quarter life crisis.There can be many other incidents in life or family which can trigger the above mentioned state of mind. And one has to undergo this state sooner or later in his or her life.The result may be a desire to make significant changes in core aspects of day-to-day life or situation, such as in career, work-life balance, marriage, romantic relationships.Although it happens in mid age of 35 to 40 but I am feeling it very soon in my life. There are many incidents and crisis pertaining to it.

As we get more stable in life our problems diminishes. Earlier we used to study, prepare for entrance examination,then job ,marriage,raising children and then one come across a situation feeling What next? Some people for the sake of physical worldly pleasure spend most time in changing job,building wealth and property but again even in their life, later the same mandate question arises. Till we see some height we tend to climb but when we reach at some plain stage of life we get paranoid and get confuse which way to go now!!

Uniformity in life, always having same faces,evaporation of interest etc distracts the mind to search for something new. So we do our bit to get anything new in life.

But this mid life/quarter life crisis at least makes a person think deeply about themselves,ask question to their own conciseness and some people even find something new in them.So the dilemma of either exploring ourselves or search for something new in life is kind of crisis in itself.

The problem will be faced by everyone, more or less in the same way. Take a fresh thinking in your life, maybe go find a new personality in you, maybe you should identify yourself. Crimping of new thoughts adds some life to this process.Paranoia finally do teach us something. As it relates to life all the knowledge we learn comes not only by our academic lives, but even our experience constantly teaches us many things. Many circumstances of life leaves many question to us. And we should check what already we learned from them? Ask yourself this question?

Having experienced it, they'll smile reading this. And who have not reached this stage yet, the dialogue will be meaningless. Those who relate this paranoia with me, they will re-read it..

Friends@GOA

This is my blog no Pachaas...(means fifty - 50...this is how I say it in my style.) I had reserved many topics to write for this post. Even wrote the draft notes for many but wasn't able to decide which one to post. Means I wanted to make this post something special but had no clue of any special topic for it. Then suddenly the piles and logs of Friendship Day posts and messages made me to just share some of my memories with my friends who just eloped away from Mumbai for their better career prospects or higher studies.But we all enjoyed our last trip to goa.
We all were fed up of our daily routines and office works. And wanted some adventure in our life and get rejuvenate our self. And result was GOA trip. I will not write more but will just share the pics...
 Just follow the link. Click for the slideshow.

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